Know your rights when stopped

In the age where human life is being blatantly disregarded and innocent, unarmed individuals are being callously gunned down in the street by the Police, it’s important to know your rights.

Whenever I get stopped, after turning my car off and removing the keys from my ignition, I place my keys in plain sight then I activate my video recorder.

Here are some Important points to note:

First and foremost, be respectful, there is nothing worse that being an agitator! Remember they have guns, you don’t want to be on the receiving end of a bullet!

1. You CAN ask why you’re being stopped.
” May I ask why I’m being stopped?”

2. You CAN refuse to have your vehicle searched.
” I do not consent to any searches”.

3. You CAN film and or record the stop and questioning.
(Though they’ll say you can’t)

4. You have the right to refuse to answer any questions.
Please use this right!


Most will be nervous, as is your right, but keep your mouth shut, you may say something that can be used against you!!!

5. You have the right to ask if you’re being detained.
Ask “Am I being detained? Or am I free to go?” of they say you’re not being detained, you can leave, if they say you are being detained, keep your mouth shut. You are under no obligation to say anything else.

Please be safe out there.

Not every police officer you encounter will be bad, there are some who take their oath to protect & serve very seriously!


See something, Say something or Not?!

When is it appropriate to see something & say something?
When is it permissible?
When is it ok to not mind your business?

That’s the question at the forefront of my mind today…

We’ve all heard about how it’s advisable to mind your business; to not cross certain boundaries when it comes to infringing on the rights of privacy due to others.

I’m trying to ascertain when it would be acceptable to get involved in a situation that has nothing to do with you personally, but everything to do with you morally?!

Last night, on a rare night out with the girls, I witnessed someone slip something into an unsuspecting female’s drink.

They were dancing with her shortly prior to the incident and she seemed receptive to the frisky advances that they were engaging in on the dance floor.

They parted ways after about 10 minutes of dirty dancing. She danced with several other suitors before the one guy approached her from behind and dropped something into her drink which she was holding by the rim, by her side, before walking away.

I was standing behind her and saw everything. I had to think fast. I reacted.

I “accidentally”, purposely bumped into her, her drink fell.
Mission accomplished.
The pill had almost completely dissolved.

Naturally she was pissed off. I apologized. She was belligerent.
I gave her $10 to buy herself another drink.

She accepted it before advising me to “watch where the hell I was going.”
I advised her to “pay attention to her drink as someone had just dropped something in it.”

Needless to say she wasn’t in the right frame of mind to be receptive to the fact that she had been saved from God alone knows what, danger.

I posted a status on Facebook about being careful in the bars & clubs, because even though she didn’t sit her drink down unattended, the position that she had it in, she couldn’t see it.

I got many comments. From kudos, to I destroyed evidence, to why did that concern me. So that made me think.
When is it okay to see something, say something?!

I’m going to send a message to John Quinones @JohnQABC of ABC’s What would you do.
He’s covered this topic before just on a different scenario.
I’d like to hear your take on this…

Please be careful. We are each other’s keepers…

Was I right to react?



Should I have….


Happy Fathers Days


Happy Father’s Day to ALL of the Males making a difference in the lives of children, biological or inherited.

We Salute you.

Love & support for those struggling to find their way.
Try your best, that’s all anyone can ask.

To those that don’t, hopefully you will see the error of you ways and come around. It’s never too late.

Enjoy your day guys!

I am SHE

GM! Thank you Father 4 this day!
She was always very ambitious.
She had a wealth of knowledge and ideas.

But she lacked the confidence necessary to make her dreams a reality.

Then one day she realized, if she didn’t believe in herself, no one else would.

After much soul searching, She found the answers to her questions. Prayer works wonders.

She now believes that with GOD, confidence, hard work and dedication all things are possible.

She now inspires others to realize their full potential.

I am her & SHE is ME!

Have a blessed and productive day ahead,

Che’ xoxo

#iAmShe #BlessedBeyondMeasure #FullyFocused #LegacyBuilder #GameChanger



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